Is Social Media Related to Higher Divorce Rates?

Author: Alison Keil, Esq.

Facebook… innocent enough website, right? How can we not be entertained by looking up a former girlfriend or a first love? It never hurt anyone to reminisce about a youthful uncomplicated romance. Innocence at its best.

Except that some commentators are calling Facebook “just a click away from an affair.” And affairs often lead to divorce.

According to a survey by the UK’s DivorceOnline, Facebook was implicated in a third of all divorce filings in a recent year. Moreover, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, over 80% of U.S. divorce attorneys have witnessed a rise in the number of divorces linked to social networking. A study published in July 2014 in the journal, Computers in Human Behavior, revealed that the use of social networking sites “is negatively correlated with marriage quality and happiness, and positively correlated with experiencing a troubled relationship and thinking about divorce.”

Author Jason Krafsky, who wrote Facebook and Your Marriage, states that when couples deal with social media sites: “It is not enough to have good intentions. Most affairs do not start because someone says to themselves ‘I think I’ll have an affair.'” He states that Facebook “puts temptation in the path of people who would never in a million years risk having an affair.”

Many research studies are referring to “internet infidelity” and “virtual adultery” as a national epidemic. Apparently the anonymity associated with electronic communication allows users to feel more open and free in talking with other users. This anonymity and attention makes the “virtual affair” fun, easy, increasingly appealing and accessible.

But there is conflicting evidence. A study by the Journal of Family and Economic Issues found that there is no evidence of an increase of divorce due to social networking. Rather, this study suggests that Internet sites are simply an accessible means to explore relationships outside of marriage.

Regardless, Facebook and other social media sites are cited over and over as the cause for divorce and can be influential as sources of evidence in divorce cases. In a notable recent matter, Connecticut Judge Kenneth Shluger ordered a divorcing couple to swap login details for their Facebook and dating website accounts. Judge Shluger handed down the ruling after the husband told his lawyer that he had seen incriminating things on his wife’s Facebook account (via their shared computer at home) that could help him in a custody battle.

At Keil & Siegel we see how in this modern, fast-paced world marriages are tested in a variety of ways. Challenges can be Internet-based or develop elsewhere. Our advice to clients is to be smart about what they write, send and post online. As a rule of thumb, you should never post something that you would not want your worst enemy to see which, in a contested divorce, just may end up being your spouse.

Once you click “enter”, the decision is made. Proceed with caution and don’t add to the statistics on impulse.

Alison Keil

About the Author: Alison Keil Esq., focuses her practice on family and matrimonial law and serves as a powerful advocate for all clients, guiding them through difficult divorces and complex family issues. She has appeared in Supreme and Family Courts in all five boroughs of New York City and Long Island. For well over a decade, she has represented individuals in contested and uncontested matrimonial actions, child-related matters including custody, visitation, relocation and paternity, as well as mediation and collaborative law processes. Alison regularly negotiates prenuptial, postnuptial, settlement and separation agreements, and advises clients regarding pension and retirement plans, stock options, trusts, limited partnerships, closely held corporations, and the valuation of businesses, professional licenses, enhanced earning capacity and celebrity status.

It is the passion and attention to each client that has led Alison to achieve a reputation for devotion and service. Her reputation reflects the sincere personal commitment made to each of client and the unique circumstances of each matter. Alison strives to make all family law issues easier for those undergoing them, and has devoted her legal career to serving individuals in need of legal guidance through challenging times. It is this deep commitment to her clients that enables her to serve them in a more powerful way, fighting to protect their interests as if each client were her own family. Visit to find out more.


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